Life can often bring changes and we can’t always control our circumstances. Times of change can mean something different to everyone. It might mean big life events, or it could be small changes that mean routine is disrupted and plans are changing, whether for better or worse.
These situations can affect everyone differently and it’s important to be kind, because you never know how a situation can be making someone feel.
There are some helpful suggestions about how to support autistic people in times of change on the National Autistic Society website guide to dealing with change.
Kit explains: “As a neurodivergent person it is very common to feel invalidated by neurotypical people because they may not understand why you’re feeling the way you do, but it’s important to remember that if it’s affecting you, it’s valid. It’s okay to experience things however you feel is necessary to aid processing, while also being considerate to others.”
Periods of transition
Periods of transition can be particularly difficult for some neurodivergent people.
Children and young people may struggle with changes linked to switching schools or exams. Older teenagers may find it hard adapting to the adult world or transitioning to university or college. Neurodivergent adults may face difficulties dealing with changes in their working life or family life.
All these changes can pose a challenge and create high stress and tension for the person affected. This can enhance symptoms, which can in turn lead to meltdowns and anxiety. The self-care and wellbeing section of our website includes suggestions that may help during stressful times.
If you are struggling with change and need to talk to someone, remember that help is always available. These free 24/7 services are always on hand if you are facing emotional difficulties:
Changes in school
Navigating education when you are neurodivergent can be difficult, from social struggles to learning and even the routine intensity of school life.
Switching schools or transitioning from primary to secondary school can be particularly tough. However, the change may ultimately be for the better.
Jack recalls: “It was only when I went to secondary school that I started to build confidence at school. I had teaching assistants present in the class and access to a space during break times where I made friendships that helped to strengthen how I was able to integrate. That helped me not to feel so isolated.”
The NHS website includes helpful advice and signposting about school if your child is autistic.
Moving into further education
Higher education has become so much more accessible to everyone, including those with disabilities. Universities strive to be inclusive to everyone, regardless of their identity, gender or disability.
University websites have pages dedicated to neurodivergent students and the best places to find support, from education to living circumstances, such as this example from University of Exeter.
Unite Students has also published an excellent article ‘What do neurodivergent students want from university?’ and a longer report. This covers topics including ‘Pre-arrival anxieties’ and even ‘Sensory issues’, and is great for students who are finding the idea of moving away from home really scary, especially those who struggle to adapt to change but still want to become independent.
As for other support, look into your university’s wellbeing and student support offices, as they’re well equipped to handle all kinds of students that come into university. The wellbeing offices at university are fantastic for support and giving advice in crisis. They usually have mental health officers on standby to offer mental health support and assist with any anxieties when it comes to moving into university. The student hubs are also there to guide you to the correct areas of expertise and get advice on almost all things related to education and personal issues.
Universities’ websites include information on the wellbeing services available, so take a look when you are choosing universities.
